In my youth, when I was in the lap of my parents, that is, we all lived under one roof. I remember that I obeyed the first order according to the mandate ordered by some of them and complied immediately, according to the obligations that corresponded to me as a son. At the time, I felt in my heart that I owed them respect and consideration as my main duty. And that I considered it as a logical discipline, that over time I would have to put into practice when I formed my home, that is why we will teach you how to discipline my son.
Today I thank my parents for all the physical, psychological, economic, emotional effort and above all the true love that they instilled in me to progress in life. Although with certain limitations in terms of the financial area, and even so they made me understand that the material is not everything.
How to discipline my son in these complicated modern times.
The parents of this generation have had to face another type of reality to educate their children. Perhaps it is due to the misinterpretations that our children get from social networks, the internet, television and even in the lyrics of the music. Here are the blessed common phrases that children want to repeat every moment when it comes to fulfilling their obligations at home. “But mom is already going or the hour I’ll do it.” And (you wait and the time doesn’t come when you ask them to, but when they want it. Of course, as long as they don’t forget the order issued by their parents), it’s time to get tough and start disciplining them, not because of the good of one but of them. Since at any moment they will have to learn to fly alone and they will have to face the reality of life.
I know that the main key to educate and guide our children is to put true love into practice. Which is the basis of all discipline and fill our hearts with abundant patience.
If you want to have children who are successful and full of humility and who learn to have tolerance, discipline and who integrate easily into society, you must go to the main source. To the true life that is God’s if you are a believer and put into practice certain recommendations that have served me to discipline my son.
Basic recommendations for our children to be obedient.
Being a parent is not easy, but you should not give up so easily as over time you will become stronger and feel proud of your achievement. Once you see the results you will be able to say with certainty that: “this is my beloved son who I am pleased with by disciplining my son”a.
- Instruct them with explanations that are clear and simple, you can also suggest them in a loving way and without criticizing them. How can you improve the activities we ask of you, for example, tell him lovingly. “Honey, is it necessary for me to be behind you, so that you fulfill the obligations that I send you? Another would be… My love, if you already know the time it is your turn to bathe or eat, why do you wait for me to order you? Teach him to make his own decisions, remember that you won’t always have him by your side.
- Praise is a great enhancer that reinforces your child’s behavior. It motivates him to progress and we also make him understand that we value his effort. Regardless of the magnitude of the order issued. Whether this is a simple or large activity, the important thing is to praise him because he shows progressive progress. We can use phrases such as “How wonderful what I asked of you is, or Thank you for obeying me the moment I asked you for the favor.”
- You can use the old phrase although it is still infallible and it is the story up to three and I have two and if you do not regret it. The idea is not to go up to three, so that it gives you a chance to take a deep breath and fill yourself with patience. So that you don’t get upset and think about showing him more affection.
- You have to practice a lot the rules of coexistence at home, if your son is one of the rebellious and negative ones, do not give up, insist, do not give up. Have positivity in your mind so that you get results. The one who perseveres wins and reaches the end and you know that sooner rather than later you will get your reward.
- Educate our children without shouting or punishment, especially if they are rebellious, with certain limits and rules. Avoiding reproaches and giving them some reflections and more if in the future they will be a father or mother of a family. That is, explain to him that he does not want his children to act in the same way as him.
- You have to keep their values of capacity and behaviors positive.
- They can help each other by reading books that have content of children’s disobedience towards their parents.
- You have to absolutely avoid taking your child to compare him with another, be it a brother, friend, cousin, among others. It is the worst mistake that parents can make, since we weaken his natural profile as a human being, leading him to be competitive, frustrating his own skills and knowledge.
- Do not label your children, let them develop completely normally, leaving them to make their own decisions in a certain way.
- Do not make their work easier, let them learn to solve unless they ask you for advice or guidance.