Today, raising our adolescent children presents itself as a challenge. But never again as an obstacle to our lives, which we should not neglect. In most cases, both parents have the obligation to go out to work to look for sustenance and provide for their home. They recognize in a certain way that their children have been raised by different nannies. They have been guided by the internet or social networks or simply by friends and TV. And they (the children) feel neglected, without any guidance from their parents. Becoming rebellious adolescents, or shy and among other cases insecure of themselves for not having a stable pattern of their parents that helps them define their identity.
We parents must be vigilant and guide without going to the extreme of losing patience, be attentive to the changes that they are experiencing in their development. Both physical and mental and emotional.
If you are one of the parents who spends more time working and you do not take adequate time to pay attention to your children, then do not complain about what they will be like in the future. It only seeks to solve the problem even if you arrive home very tired or distressed. Do it now that you still have time and they have not finished growing. Show him that his company is important in your life and explain to him that it is necessary to do a lot of work to bring support so that he has a good quality of life. Communication is essential in any case. Do not miss the beautiful opportunity to raise and educate your children, since they grow up in the blink of an eye.
Important factors that make it easier to define your identity.
Remember that it is a topic for parents raising boys, although certain characteristics are applicable to female adolescents in their quest to define their identity. Among them we have:
- Their physical development varies from child to child, either due to the type of diet or because they practice sports at an early age or simply due to genetics, causing them to grow and tend to lose weight or gain weight.
- Self-esteem varies, since many of them feel that they are the owners of the world, thinking that they know everything and that their point of view is the most appropriate, others see the world with a shade of gray, without intending to change their aptitude by placing their reasoning in vague and meaningless perspectives.
- Their temperament varies from one moment to another, at one moment they can show that they are still childish and another they show total maturity.
- Some are shy and do not want to socialize, others wonder how I fit into society, trying to locate themselves in a defined place anywhere in the world, so much so that they wonder “who am I”.
- Because of their indecision, some become rebellious, others submissive.
- They encourage intimate relationships with their opposite sex seeking affection, this helps a lot to strengthen their identity.
- They develop the psychomotor part, becoming agile and very strong, in some their muscles are strengthened with the exercises.
- Their sexual and corporal maturation causes their reproductive system to grow, developing their lividity, it also appears in some pubic hair and all over the body, in some of the young people facial hair begins to grow.
- The vocal cords thicken, giving rise to the Adam’s apple in the throat.
- If your son tends to get confused when it comes to defining his sexology, that is, he is mentally confused, don’t get upset or reject him. Just explain to him for sure that genetics does not fail, start communicating with him more and show him books. Videos that appear on the internet where they scientifically explain what genes are since the nature of man does not fail. It’s just a matter of giving him time to analyze and be patient.
Factors that influence the development of youth identity.
Before naming some factors to feed their identity, we must take into account that every parent wants the best for their children. And for this it is good to consider certain aspects that are very important to help forge progressive development and define its identity. These aspects are:
Give unconditional love to your children, instill in them values where their morality is affirmed so that they do not have setbacks when they decide to enter society. Forge critical thoughts where he asks himself questions where he questions himself. Of course, do not pressure him or try to manipulate or force, do not be an authoritarian father. Let him learn to make decisions about himself and his environment.
Here are the factors to take into account:
- Not being authoritarian or overprotective parents, what is sought is to create a style of education with certain limits and rules.
- Teach them behaviors that help them adapt to society, helping them to have their own personality.
- Not all adolescents mature at a certain age, you just have to encourage and help them in the process. By the time the time comes, they are already firm in the personal conduct they are going to adopt when they want to join the family group. Among friends and in society as a human being and thus define their identity.