For a long time the infant stage has been considered as absolute purity and excellent innocence, putting in place that children lacked sexual tendencies. At the beginning of the century when Freud discovered the existence of sexual instincts in the first moments of age in human beings. He caused a lot of scandal, starting real criticism and ridicule for not knowing about sexuality.
It must be taken into account that by the times of the 19th century and the beginning of the 20th century, there was a very puritanical society. That everything related to the sexual field turned out to be something sinful and even more so if it was not directed towards the procreation of the individual.
That is why it was not easy to accept this theory, because the impulses or tendencies that the child experienced with a sexual nature in order to obtain only pleasure, suggests that those little ones who are beautiful and wonderful infants who populate our homes and who give much joy to their parents, are synonymous with the fact that they are little “vicious monsters” as Freud calls it in his difficult-to-accept hypothesis, this is in terms of covering the basic needs that the child experiences such as hunger, thirst or the need to suck That for the infant it is necessary to satisfy but they call them sexual pleasures.
That is why today it is necessary to implement a good child sexual education that will help the infant to have knowledge of his sexual organs and erogenous zones, as well as favor his integration in sexual behavior within his affective life. So that he is able to value sex as part of her personality.
How should infantile sexuality be understood and how does it develop?
Infantile sexuality is the attitude that the infant takes to obtain pleasure. Seeking to develop her psyche and organize her own body by channeling specific areas of her. In other words, he himself experiences the first sensations that give him pleasure, whether they are physical or psycho-affective. The worst mistake that can be made is to try to understand childhood sexuality within the parameters of adult sexuality. Since this develops in adults through a long evolutionary process that culminates in puberty and logically there is a very limiting degree of organization. In that the children will not yet reach it.
In newborns sexuality develops in the first year of life. Which, for example, to satisfy their physiological needs such as feeding. The hungry baby finds its mother’s breast and begins to suck, evidently looking for milk to eat. He experiences pleasure. Another modality that he adopts is thumb sucking, masturbation and, among others, playing with feces is a sexual activity that is normal at that age.
What are the most important erogenous zones?
The erogenous zones are all those parts of the infant’s body that provide a certain sensation of pleasure. These being the main ones: mouth and lips (oral), anal and genital.
- Oral, is where the pleasure of feeding is obtained and also through the lips that secrete mucosa that make the baby feel more sensitive to the contact of milk intake. That it does it by means of suction.
- The anal area. This is associated with the retentive and excretory function that is carried out instinctively or impulsively.
- The genital, is bound by the action of urination. Although in a very short period of time this area separates from its urination function to become one of special sensitivity. That has been structuring infantile sexuality in its different evolutionary stages.
The incorporation of giving our little children adequate hygiene habits helps them establish a normal relationship of well-being and pleasure with their own body. In addition, it is not good to create prejudices because you would foster an obstacle, on the contrary, the ideal is to always have clear and sincere communication.
Normal sexual behavior of a child between 2 and 6 years.
This is a compilation of data taken from different pediatricians, however it is good to alert your child to how he should behave in society.
- Attempting to see their friends or adults naked.
- Masturbating in front of others or in private.
- Show your private parts or genitals to others.
- Touching or looking at the genitals of friends or adults.
- Try to introduce the tongue when giving a kiss on the mouth.
- Rubbing his little body with others or objects.
These behaviors are transitory in them therefore they are easy to distract, however it is prudent to explain to your child that it is not convenient to touch the private parts of other children or anyone, that if it is achieved with an abuser who touches their parts, contact you immediately or, for the time being, notify a trusted adult.